I believe that everyone either have experienced bullying or at some stage of their life will experience it. I experienced bullying on and off for four years. Throughout these four years I came to a few realisations that I will be discussing today. Before I go into my five ways to deal with I want you to remember this. You have done nothing wrong, this is not your fault and it will get better. They are the ones who have a problem. Not you.
1. Tell someone you trust.
I know it seems terrifying to speak out and tell someone you are suffering, but it will help you. This person can be anyone from a friend, a family member or even a teacher you trust. This will be such a weight off your shoulders. They may be able to give you some advice or information that can help you. They may be also be able to keep an eye out for you. So please, please talk to someone you trust.
2. Stand up for yourself.
I know, I know, you’re thinking “ she’s nuts! ” but hear me out! Standing up for yourself can be so many different things from reporting the bullying or physically standing up to your bully telling them to “fuck off“. Again you don’t have to do this either. I know that in some situations this wouldn’t be a good idea.
Another option of standing up for yourself is learning that you don’t deserve this treatment. So you are not going to let it get to you. A lot of bullies do this to get a reaction. If you don’t give them one they end up becoming bored.
3. Believe in yourself and your own self worth.
Bullying can drag you down big time. They can make you feel worthless, unworthy of love and all the awful names they call you. There’s nothing worse than believing what they say. It slowly gets to you, makes you feel every way they want you to feel. You lose all your confidence or chip away at the tiny bit of confidence you have. If you don’t have confidence that’s even worse because you agree with them. Let me tell you one thing: you are beautiful and strong. Don’t let them bring you down!
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You are so much better than them. They need to bring you down to make them feel good about themselves. They need you to feel shit in your own head and body to make them feel good. They are jealous of your life, what you have, who you are and what you have in life. Remember you are beautiful and strong.
4. Don’t let them get to you.
I know this is easier said than done right? If you keep your head held and are full of positivity they WILL NOT get to you. Love yourself! Have positive vibes. When they say or do something you don’t like, brush it off and laugh. Like I previously l mentioned I was bullied in school and I was also abused at home. I was miserable until I learned that I could control how the people in school made me feel. I learned to act strong. I learned how to brush off the comments.
If I can survive my abusive home and father I can survive some idiot kids in school. I can take them on anytime of the day. You can do this. I believe in you. You are strong. When you don’t let them win I promise you eventually they will get bored. They live off your fear and your reactions.
My final tip of this post is this.
5. If you see anyone getting bullied or picked on DON’T WALK AWAY AND LET IT HAPPEN.
Reach out to that person, check if they are okay, report it to someone who has the power to stop it or walk over and tell them to PISS OFF! People in these situation may be stuck and can’t stand up for themselves so they need YOU to do it for them. Trust me they will forever be grateful. We need to be there for people. You wouldn’t like it if you were being picked on and people walked past pretending it wasn’t happening.
Be the person someone needs. We all need to stand together and help each other. We need to step up and help!
Thank you for reading.